Are Extra Marital Affairs Justified ?

This is in response to a anguished person asking me my views about a extramarital affair .Appropriately the bottom line of the persons rather labyrinthine explanation was “Do you think I am cheating on my partner “?. To be honest –I am no specialist in this kind of advice and normally I do not give it .A man woman relationship is a very complicated thing and at every point there will be a differing perceptio –wn to a problem .The reason for this difference in perception is not because of a differential  in reasoning ,intelligence,knowledge or wisdom between two partners .Its simply because of the fact that one is a male and the other is a female .The impulses and mindsets are different .The objectives are different .Where they converge on a point ,it is because of a give and take away from their natural make ups  .So compromise on both sides is a constant and ever evolving undercurrent .Sometimes we don’t know how much we compromise .It happens automatically .But when we don’t compromise ,then we start seeing the negatives of the other partner in a more focused way and inflexible way .And incase another man /woman steps into your life during this phase ,then  due to  a lack  of “positive” feeling for your partner  ,one  starts  thinking of the new entrant   as someone great .But then after sometime the differing aspects of your personalities will clash again if one is inflexible or uncompromising  by nature –because u are different human beings !! And the cycle continues.The solution is to keep adjusting if you think compromise is a ugly word  .I am a great one for a big “NO” to a extramarital affair .It can be exciting because it is adding a variety to ur life .But that is just a temporary phase .Ultimately it will leave big scars ,bcoz a relationship which it replaces (affair replacing marriage ), will never  go away because of the moments you have lived through collectively .And more often than not  it will generate a guilt feeling .All talk of "moving on" is just  theoretical.Philosophically it may sound the “in” thing .But practically it is not possible (unless Alzheimer hits you !!).Ultimately –there is no such thing as a honest cheat in a affair .!! That’s my take friend !!And remember –marriage is too important to be treated like a love affair .Any society that has a low view of marriage will degenerate into instability .