Monday, December 19, 2016

Never Lie - Never Ever Lie .!!

I was on a routine flight from Delhi to Ahmedabad .I flew a lot on that sector , either  for official work at the DPS Society ,or to meet my son at Delhi University ,or to meet Sangeeta who was the Principal at the Himjyoti School in Dehradun .
Delhi Domestic Airport was crowded like a railway station .Packed with people – most of their faces  looking drained and greasy .Understandable – it was Delhi weather at its worst – hot and humid .
The travelers were  impatient to get their boarding passes ,which would entitle them to enter the lounges where they could relax a bit – security check ins suck your patience  most of the times .Being a experienced traveler ,I was carrying only hand baggage – it helped me  having not to wait at conveyor belts at my destination .As I waited , I was  lookjn  forward to reaching home ,having a shower , a nice cup of Lipton Darjeeling tea , and slip into my airconditioned room .
The problem( sometimes a ego inflator !),  of having been a Principal for 3 decades is that there is someone or the other who will recognize you at a public place .Thats one of the reasons that I dress up reasonably well – (tie intact !!)- when I travel  or go to a mall or the movies . Everyone who smiles at me , appears  to me to  be either a student who I have taught ,or a parent with whom I have interacted .Someone who smiles a lot  is sometimes greeted with “Oh hello , how are you doing”? This sometimes shocks people – and sometimes makes them happy !!. I have noticed however ,that it has never hurt anyone .
As I waited – I caught the eye of a young man ahead of me in the queue .He had been looking at me and giving me a smile .
I thought ,I had seen him somewhere . But I let it pass by pretending to look at my ticket , and at the queue behind me .As he edged ahead and moved forward  he looked back and   waved at me . I waved back .Very soon  we were next to each other – but on different sides of the queue .( In airports ,people line up and sometimes queues take the form of a “U”. So you come across each other on the two straight lines of the U before  you turn round the curve ).
“ Good evening ir”, he said rather enthusiastically .Enough enthusiastically to make people turn their heads and look  towards me .By now ,I was convinced that he was a student whom I had taught .
“ Good evening”, I said .” How are you”,?
“ Fine thank You Sir. Do you recognize me” ? he asked expectantly .
I have learnt not to lie .But  there were so many people who were now part of the conversation , that I thought it would be rude and arrogant for me to say no .Besides ,my memory was reconnecting with him .Oh yes – he was a terrific sprinter in school .I also knew that he was from Soma House .But for the ife of me I could not recollect his name .But yes – I knew that below those cotton trousers he wore – were a pair of very hairy legs !!
“ Of course ,I do” !! I said . “So you are going to Ahmedabad ?” I enquired .
 “ No Sir , I am going to Pune . ( It was a Delhi Pune flight with a stopover at Ahmedabad ) .Sir do you remember  my name” .?
“ Yes I do” ,I , answered  without thinking .He was now near the counter  . I knew that I had made the cardinal mistake of telling a unnecessary lie .I was very uncomfortable – not because I had lied ,but because what do I tell someone who thinks I remember his name .
While he checked in , I phoned up a fellow Principal friend of mine who was working in Panipat .
“ Vinoo – yaar ,what is the name of the boy ,we used to call “ Harry”,  because he had a lot of hair on his legs?”.!!
Vinoo pondered – I could make that  out in the pregnant silence at his  end  of the phone.
“ Kulu , I will get back to you .Aur sab theek thaak hai”
“ Yes ,yes .Please get me his name fast .Treat it as a emergency “ . I was panicking !! I was not interested in polite conversation .
I was cursing myself as to why I had lied .
I checked in .The boy was waiting for me .I did  not  want to meet him yet as I did not remember his name .I pretended I was talking to someone  else on my  cell ,as I shook his hands !
And then the worst happened .While I pretended to speak , the phone rang .We both looked at each other . He was too smart not to know that I had been on a fake call .
The   call was from Vinoo .He told me that the name of the boy was Devinder (name changed ). I thanked him and rushed to Devinder and gushed
“ How are you Devinder. Such a pleasure meeting you .Its been ages”.
Devinder was over the moon that I remembered not only his name ,but his House and the fact that he was hairy .
“ You are amazing Sir .You are phenomenal .And Sir you are right about the hair . See.” He pulled up a bit of his trousers .And sure the hair were still there .!!
I wonder though – what he must  have thought of the phone call that I faked while waiting to know his name ?
The bottom line – never lie .Its damn inconvenient .!! And never  never lie if you are ageing !! It compounds the problem !


Thursday, December 8, 2016

Back To School - But Now As Teachers !!

I remember both the girls when they joined  DPS Jaipur as students .That was about 15 years ago, though it seems like yesterday . I don’t have to scratch my memory to recollect what all they did as schoolgirls .They were not the normal run of the mill school children .Both were very independent and focused .I never summoned them to my office for violation of a school rule.!! Both were value driven.

Both have great lineage .Anushree's Dad was working in the Gulf( Muscat ) and she was already exposed to the world outside India .That obviously gave her the edge .She  went on  to acquire her BA  degree from Delhi University after doing her Political Science Honors from Daulat Ram College .Anyone who has studied in Delhi University knows how good the College is .She then went onto study French from the  Alliance Française ,Delhi.She bounces with energy – which is a prerequisite of a good teacher. 

Suhasiny is the granddaughter of India's greatest music director and lyricist – the legendary Madan Mohan- her mothers Dad.I know her parents Sangeeta and Rajive  very intimately and for a number of years we were part of the same party circuit( till i aged !!) ! She has a elder sister Putul , who studied English Hons at St Stephens College and  Oxford !! .  
Suhasiny   was  the School Captain , and  went on to join Lady Sri Ram College and did her Honors in History .She then went  to the School of Oriental and African Studies  in London – the equivalent of MIT / Harvard  for the Liberal Arts !! She travelled the world- London ,Berlin ,Copenhagen ,Stocholm ,Gotenburg ,Salzburg ,Vienna, Praha , Munich ……... I followed her travels very closely.

I talked to them  in my comfortable office , on a wide range of issues .I asked them the obvious question-as to what they found better – being students or being teachers in DPS Jaipur ?. They were unanimous in their opinion that it was far greater fun to be a student
“ Its less responsibility when you are incharge of yourself .Buts it’s a huge responsibility when you are in charge of yourself and so many kids .Its not just about teaching them History or French .Its also about teaching them the discipline of how to learn .Its not about WHAT to learn – its about HOW  to learn”  they said .They crinkled up their noses and continued  
“ We love teaching –but sir there is so much of file work .There are so many formats to fill”.!! I remembered my days as a young teacher  and had failed to understand why there was so much of paperwork in the teaching profession .I had presumed that teaching was only verbally telling kids what you know and occasionally writing something on the boards !!
I reassured them ,that with the passage of time ,they will learn how to manage that easily and that ,that paper work  also had a relevance .Its like a map when you are driving in a new town !!

DPS Jaipur is a coeducational school .Suhasiny and Anushree  went to study in colleges that were all girls colleges  .Did they find that a big change ? Did  they think , that it was a advantage or a disadvantage to be in such learning centres ?
“It really doesn’t matter Sir .The topic is only good for a inter house debate !! If your focus  is study ,then we don’t think it matters whether there are boys in the class or not .We were very clear what we wanted to do.” they said decisively . And as a counter they added
“Why do you presume that the only way boys and girls  meet is because they are studying in the same class and college ? And besides – the channels of communication are so many these days – technology has changed the rules of the game of relationships .There are no walls  these days ” they said added. One just needs to prioritize “ .
Hmm .Kids these days have really moved on !

I  asked them,that as teachers , what issues are important to them .Both were very concerned about the strong patriarchal society and the attitude of the men towards women- at times bordering on disdain .They feel that women and girls , still have far less freedom of choice than men .
“ But that’s true  only in the underdeveloped parts of the country .It should not matter to someone like  both of you who stay  in a city, and  that too,the  capital of the state” I said .
“You  will be surprised Sir – but we find women in rural areas safer than women  in cities .The social and religious norms still hold sway there .People find it difficult to deviate from them “ they said .They  felt that even in European countries women are discriminated against – albeit in  more subtle ways .

And the conversation went on and on .We discussed  whether DPS Jaipur had changed from their times ,whether the children were distinctly different from what they were ,whether we are in sync as far as teaching is concerned with what they were exposed to and how they saw themselves after let us say 10 years !!.Suddenly Sangeeta came in and said that Suhasiny had a remedial class and that I should let her do her job ! They both left after I took a few photographs with them .

What do students like  Suhasiny and Anushree  teach us  .?( All teachers  MUST   presume that they learn a lot from students .A teacher is  not a sage on the stage ,but a guide on the side )
They teach us that you can compete and yet remain fair and honest .I would be very disappointed if  they were to cheat someone.That will negate knowledge empowerment  .

I would be very disappointed if they were to lose a honest battle. They look such winners .Students  like them  are not JUST teachers  .They represent a belief ,a idea –that one  will succeed  by honest means – if not in the short run ,certainly in the marathon of life.
Students  like them  also teach us  that you can be loyal and loving and yet very rational, and  that professionalism does not run contrary to loyalty .One can be a poet and a nuclear scientist (like Einstein), one be a hopeless romantic but yet a  great king .!We need more children like them , leaving our schools and becoming teachers .

Did I give them any advice ? No .I don’t believe in giving advice .I believe what Einstein when he said “ I am grateful to all those who refused me advice as its because of them I did it myself”  . However  if they are reading this , then what Steve Jobs wrote is something I would like them to keep in mind in their life

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

I find it necessary to quote Steve Jobs , because many will discourage them from becoming school teachers given their qualifications and brilliance .They did that to me .But I followed my heart .
I hope they follow theirs !!